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We’re here. 2021 has arrived. For some of us getting to this point might’ve felt like dragging a ton of bricks across the finish line. Many looked forward to being able to declare “it’s finally over!”. The popular sentiment has been to eagerly anticipate the new year and tell 2020 to not let the door hit its bum on the way out.
So now, here we are, about a week into 2021 and I have to ask, how are you feeling?
Most of what I’ve been hearing lately is “I don’t really feel that different”. It’s kind of like the day after a birthday, we don’t usually feel older or different. Or, have you ever been near the end of a big project or goal and expect you’ll feel great when it’s done? But then that time comes, and it’s not as glorious as you thought…
I’ve worked with many clients to achieve goals and they’ve been successful – they’ve gotten new careers, achieved degrees, earned promotions. They’ve increased their bank accounts, gone on vacations, purchased homes. They’ve decreased their pant size, repaired relationships, quit unhealthy habits, and found joy in creating a life beyond what they ever thought possible.
And yet still, the end of a goal can seem anticlimactic or the joy just doesn’t last very long. Why is that? And how do we get to true happiness?
The reason the new year, the new career, the new pant size doesn’t feel amazing forever is because these are simply Circumstances. They’re just there and have never had the power to make us feel anything.
Happiness doesn’t come from an external event or object. All feelings, like happiness, come from our brains. They’re a reflection of our thoughts. A new car doesn’t make us happy. It’s what we think about it that makes us feel happy. When we no longer think those happy, exciting thoughts about the new car – the happy new car feeling fades.
It’s the same thing when the clock flipped to 12:00 AM on 01/01/21. It’s a new year. That in itself is not a magical thing. But your Thoughts about this new year COULD make it a magical one.
This is NOT about getting to be happy all of the time. Rather, it’s about realizing that because you are in charge of what you think, you also have the authority over your emotions. You do not have to wait for happiness to show up at your door (it’s not going to anyway). And, you do not have to live with the effects of whatever emotion you happen to wake up with.
Instead, you could choose to hang out with me throughout the year and I promise to bring you real, practical solutions. Keep an eye out for new posts every month and together we won’t just take on whatever 2021 has in store. Nope, we will decide what we want in 2021 and we’ll go get it. Consider it done. #20TwentyWon
Oh, and I have a shiny new calendar for you to schedule time for a free chat. We can strategize together about how this all works for you specifically. Let’s do this!
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